Sex

This post is something which hasn't been touched on frequently and still in this day and age can be seen as a 'taboo'. I'm going to give my outright honest opinion throughout every single blog that I post therefore if you aren't happy with my opinion that's okay, either try to understand things from my point of view or keep your opinions to yourself cause we don't do negativity here.

So, sex.

One of the biggest milestones in a persons life. Losing their v cards. You've heard about it in the movies, books and tv and now the moments finally happening. Having sex for the first time (this could be for the legit first time, or with a new person) can be extremely daunting. I'm going to tell you some things which might help put your minds at ease or maybe you could relate to.

1. Your first time will be awkward
It is highly unlikely it will be anything straight from a movie scene. This is because realistically you are two young virgins who have most likely never been naked in front of another person and have little idea of what you are actually doing. In a situation like this I will always say try not to be overly awkward in this situation, if the atmosphere starts to feel uncomfortable you can always opt out, youb are always allowed to say no.

2. Nobody cares about how you 'bits' look
There's a big stigma on joking about the way female and male genitalia looks, I honestly don't get it. Size really doesn't matter, it's all about how you use what your momma gave you. This also applies to women as I've frequently seen posts about how if women are loose she puts out etc, which is so untrue, if you think that then you shouldn't be having sex. The reality is nobody cares about what your genitals look like, especially in the moment because you'll both be so carried away. And in the 1 in a million chance they did, who cares? You are the only person who needs to love your body you don't need anyone else for that.

3. Practice
Many young people tend to believe that they will get the hand of sex after doing it once, which again is definitely not going to happen. You see, sex is kind of like a sport you have to practice to be good at it, so you will definitely not be amazing after your first go. So for any of my young readers out there (especially the girls) don't listen to a guy if he says he's really good in bed cause the chances he is are slim to non.

4. Pain
This one is a big one that a lot of people are scared about when it comes to having sex for the first time. The older that you do lose your virginity the less it might hurt, but this varies for everyone. It might be extremely painful or only hurt a little bit (or not hurt at all!) however I would advise that if it really hurts that you see a doctor about it just to be on the safe side. It also wouldn't be painfree after your first attempt it will still feel slightly uncomfortable for a couple more times or especially if you are waiting long periods of time. You will also most likely bleed during or after. This won't be gallons of blood pouring out of your vagina but it's more of a light red/colour colour which is a thin consistency, if this does happen to you then you shouldn't at all feel embarrassed at this is very common.

5. Have fun
Finally have fun and make the most of the experience! Keep in mind not ever experience with be an amazing one however the bad ones produce great stories (I've got a fair share of these). Be in the moment try to enjoy it as sex is something that's supposed to make you feel great and it's amazing to be that intimate with someone, so stop getting in your head and be present.

If you are planning on having sex with a stranger, a friend or a significant other always remember to use protection, especially if you are young to prevent sti's and unwanted pregnancies. Please think carefully about if you really want to lose your virginity yet as this is a big thing to some people and can mean a lot. Also, my final note is that you have the right to sleep with whoever you want to, therefore if you want to do one night stands don't take crap off other people who might make snide comments as this has nothing to do with them, as long as you are happy that all that matters.